MARRIAGE BATTLE 1
As soon as I cleared out the dinner table, I went into the
bedroom, not bothering to say goodnight to Kenny in the living room. I
knew he was going to be coming to bed soon enough. I needed him to think
I was fast asleep by the time he came to bed. I quickly got into the
bathroom and had a quick shower before climbing into bed. I made sure I
put on my long pyjamas so there was no way he could have easy access to
my body. About an hour later when I heard him climb into bed and turn
the other way, I finally let out the breath I was holding. I managed to
escape the sex tonight.
By the time I woke up the next morning, I knew we were
going to have another round of noise and fight and I quickly said a
silent prayer to God for strength. I could feel his hand roaming round
my body relentlessly and there was no doubt in my mind what the expected
the end result to be. I opened my eyes and took a glimpse at the clock
on the wall. It was just 6.am.
I turned and removed his hands from my body and tried to get up only to
be pulled back. By the third time of going through the same motion, he
finally spoke up.
''Babe, what is the excuse today? It has been 2 weeks for
Christ sake. How am I supposed to be happy if you wont even have sex
with me?'' he said with obvious frustration in his voice.
''So your happiness is now tied to sex? You still don't get it do you? I am doing this for us. For our home and our future. I told you before I started this was going to happen and you agreed and now you want to make me feel guilty. Seriously I am confused.''
''Omololami, you know I am not opposed to prayer and
fasting. I love God too and I go to church but you cannot honestly
expect me not to have sex for the next 100 days just because you want to
fast''
I was so angry at that statement and I flared up,
''Seriously Kenny, are you kidding me right now? What
happened to self control? This just shows have far you have fallen from
the faith. Is this not the same you that used to fast with me all the
time before we got married? So all that spirituality was a lie? Did we
not court for two years without sex? So you must have been cheating on
me.''
''What? How can you say that? Are you crazy? How can you
even compare both scenarios? I was single then now I am married. Why did
I get married if I can't have sex?''
''Oh so now I am a sex machine? You married me for the sex?'' I asked
''You know what, I wont waste my time having this fruitless
conversation with you. I am warning you for the last time. I wont take
this your fasting bullshit and you will learn to respect me in this
house. If this is the rubbish they are teaching you in church, I will
ban you from going there''
''You wont dare Kehinde Ayorinde. You will not dare. If I
ever have to choose between you and my God, trust me you will loose. It
is God first and you second. That devil that is trying to use you, will
not find a place''.
''Try me, Lola, just try me'' he said as he walked into the bathroom and slammed the door.
I walked out of the room and went into the kitchen
heartbroken. As I went about making Kenny's lunch that he usually takes
to work I was so sad. I didn't understand Kenny's bitterness towards my
relationship with God. I didn't expect to have these kind of issues just
6 months after marriage. He knew how much I loved God and how much that
relationship means to me and he was proving so difficult. We even
talked about this while we were courting and he used to tell me how much
he loved my passion for God. We have tried getting pregnant for the
past 5 months and nothing has happened and I knew I needed to tackle it
in prayer before 5 months turned to 15 years and I told him I decided to
join the 100 days fast in church. Initially, he had agreed to join me
but 3 days after he stopped. I didn't get offended. I decided to do the
prayers myself, I just
did not expect him to be so bitter about it. As I
finished packing his lunch about 30 minutes later, Kenny came out fully
dressed and just walked past me without picking up his food as usual. I
quickly ran after him and caught up with him just as he was getting
into his car.
''You didn't take your food'' I said.
''Take that rubbish food and get out of my sight. I don't
want your food, now or ever until you learn to respect me and until you
decide what is more important to you'' he said and slammed the door,
driving away while I stood there mouth agape.
We had a lot of disagreements over sex in the last two
weeks but I had never seen Kenny so bitter before. I knew there then I
needed to pray for my home. Casting out every demon that suddenly
possessed my husband......To be continue
source: Whatapp
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